Trusting Allah’s Plan: When What You Want Isn’t What You Need
You may pray day and night for a specific job, a particular person to marry, or financial success, yet you don’t receive them. You may even cry to Allah, begging for your husband to change and for your marriage to improve. But no matter how much you pray, things stay the same—or even get worse.
It’s easy to feel frustrated or even question why Allah isn’t granting your du’ā. But the truth is, when Allah doesn’t give you something, it’s either because:
1. It is not your rizq—Allah has written something better for you, something more suited to your journey, even if you can’t see it yet.
2. If you insist on getting it despite the warning signs, it will turn into a painful life lesson—one that may cost you years of suffering and regret.
We often beg Allah for things that, if granted, could break us instead of benefit us. But instead of trusting Allah’s wisdom, we ignore the red flags, silence our intuition, and force what isn’t meant for us.
When Lessons Come Through Pain
When we refuse to trust Allah’s plan, our du’ā doesn’t always go unanswered—it just arrives in a different form. Instead of being a blessing, it comes as a lesson. Instead of joy, it brings heartbreak. And while Allah always guides us toward what is best, we sometimes insist on learning the hard way.
Maybe you’ve been praying for your husband to change—for him to finally be kind, loving, and righteous. You convince yourself that you just need more sabr, more patience, more du’ā. But what if Allah isn’t changing him because he’s not meant to be part of your future? What if, instead of giving you a better version of him, Allah is trying to give you a better life without him?
But here’s what we often overlook: the longer we hold onto what is not for us, the longer we delay what is actually meant for us.
• We waste months, even years, healing from something we were never supposed to be attached to in the first place.
• We cry over the loss of something that was never good for us, not realising that Allah was trying to redirect us all along.
• We stay stuck in heartbreak, grief, and confusion, while Allah is waiting for us to let go, heal, and step into the rizq He has prepared for us.
Let Go and Trust
You cannot receive what is written for you if your hands are still clinging to what Allah is trying to remove. The sooner you release what is not yours, the sooner what is truly yours will arrive.
Trust the process. What is meant for you will never pass you. But what is not meant for you will never stay, no matter how much you beg for it.