Divorced Mamas: Healing is Your Victory—Don’t Let the Enemy Win

When you go through a divorce, especially after experiencing emotional abuse, betrayal, or deep hurt, the enemy—Shaytaan—does not want you to heal. He wants to keep you stuck in anger, bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness. Because as long as you remain in that state, you are weakened, distracted, and unable to fully move forward.

Shaytaan’s Goal: Keep You Trapped in Pain

Divorce can be painful, but it is not meant to define you forever. However, Shaytaan will whisper thoughts like:

• “You were wronged, and you must never forgive.”

• “You’ll never be happy again.”

• “Everyone else has a perfect life except you.”

• “Your children are doomed.”

• “You should seek revenge.”

These whispers are designed to keep you stuck in rage and despair. Because when you stay in these emotions for too long, you begin to lose yourself. Your faith weakens, your peace is disturbed, and your ability to build a new life is delayed.

Healing is Your Victory

The best way to fight back is to heal. Healing doesn’t mean you ignore the pain or pretend nothing happened. It means you process it, release it, and refuse to let it control your future.

• Let go of the resentment, not for them, but for you. Carrying hate and bitterness only poisons your own heart, not theirs.

• Refuse to become what hurt you. If your ex was manipulative or cruel, don’t allow his behaviour to turn you into someone you’re not.

• Focus on your children’s well-being. Your healing directly impacts them. Shaytaan wants your pain to spill over into your parenting—don’t give him that power.

• Trust that Allah sees all and is your ultimate justice. You don’t need to hold onto anger for justice to be served. Allah’s justice is far greater than anything you could ever seek.

Don’t Give the Enemy a Foothold in Your Family

Bitterness, resentment, and holding onto past pain can affect your children, your future relationships, and even your connection with Allah. The enemy thrives when families are broken, when mothers are drained, and when hope is lost. But you are stronger than that.

Choose to heal. Choose to rise. Choose to reclaim your peace.

Because the moment you decide that your past will not define you—you’ve already won.