Standards Intimidate the Wrong Men, But Inspire the Right Ones

When you set high standards for yourself—whether in relationships, business, or life in general—you’ll notice something interesting. The men who cannot meet those standards will be the loudest in their criticism. They’ll call you “too picky,” “too demanding,” or say you need to “lower your expectations.” But what they’re really saying is: I can’t meet those standards, so I need you to lower them for me.

On the other hand, the right man—the one who is secure, confident, and aligned with your values—will respect your standards. He won’t be intimidated by them; he will admire them. Why? Because he already comes equipped. He won’t feel the need to argue or convince you to settle. Instead, he will naturally meet and even exceed your expectations because he shares the same vision of life and relationships.

This is why having strong standards is a filter—it immediately separates those who are right for you from those who are not. The wrong ones will try to break you down, while the right ones will rise to meet you where you are.