When Peace Is Missing From What Allah Made Peaceful

Allah tells us in the Qur’ān that He has made three things as a source of sukoon (tranquility, stillness, and peace) for us:

1. Our spouses –

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.”

[Surah Ar-Rūm 30:21]

2. Our homes –

“And Allah has made for you from your homes a place of rest…”

[Surah An-Naḥl 16:80]

3. The night –

“And We made your sleep [a means for] rest. And We made the night as clothing.”

[Surah An-Naba’ 78:9-10]

These are divine gifts. They are meant to ease us, nurture us, and hold us gently as we navigate the hardships of life. They are not meant to become sources of anxiety, fear, or harm.

But what happens when those very things Allah made peaceful become sources of your greatest distress?

What if…

• Your spouse is the source of your anxiety, not your safety?

• Your home feels like a battlefield, not a sanctuary?

• Your nights are filled with panic and insomnia, not rest and recovery?

Then it’s time to pause.

To reflect.

To stop blaming yourself and to start realigning with the truth.

Because oppression is not from Allah. Abuse is not from Allah. Fear is not from Allah.

If you’re constantly walking on eggshells…

If your heart is never calm in your own space…

If your soul is suffocating next to the very person Allah said should bring you sukoon…

Then something is very wrong.

Sometimes, we stay in toxic marriages believing that staying is patience (sabr), or that this is our test from Allah. And yes, tests are real—but tests are not punishments. Tests come with tools to navigate and overcome them. Allah does not test you so that you stay permanently stuck in pain.

Imagine being in an exam room and refusing to write the paper because “I’m being tested.” That’s not sabr—that’s avoidance.

True sabr is recognising the test, using your tools, seeking support, and writing your way out of it.

Sabr is action. Sabr is movement. Sabr is trusting Allah enough to walk out of what’s hurting you.

When you remain in a space of ongoing emotional, spiritual, or physical harm—where the “peace” Allah gifted has turned into poison—you are not being rewarded for suffering. You are being nudged toward awakening.

And sometimes that awakening means choosing your safety.

Choosing your sanity.

Choosing to no longer stay in what Allah Himself is trying to pull you out of.

Allah wants ease for you.

Allah wants sukoon for you.

And when your life feels like everything but that, it may be a sign that something is deeply out of alignment.

So take this as a gentle reminder:

Your heart was not created to carry fear every day.

Your home was not meant to house abuse.

Your marriage was not meant to strip you of your light.

Allah gave you these gifts as a means of peace—

If they have become war zones, then perhaps it’s time to return to the Giver of Peace (As-Salām) and ask Him:

What are You trying to show me?

What am I holding onto that You are asking me to release?

And how can I choose the path back to sukoon?

Because peace is not a luxury.

It’s your birthright.

And Allah wants it for you more than anyone ever could.