A True Enemy Stays Close

Your enemy is not someone who is simply disengaged or indifferent toward you. A true enemy is someone who is actively engaged in your life—but in a destructive way. They are watching, analysing, and strategically working against you, even if it’s subtle.

A disengaged person doesn’t care what you do. They are not invested in your success or failure. But an engaged enemy? They are deeply involved in your life, not to support you, but to control, manipulate, and break you down.

This is exactly how narcissists operate. They don’t just ignore you; they study you. They learn your strengths, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities. They are engaged in your emotions, but not in a way that benefits you. Instead, they use what they learn to attack, gaslight, and weaken you.

They will pretend to be on your side, but their actions slowly drain your energy, confidence, and sense of self. Their engagement isn’t about love or care—it’s about power and control. They stay close because that’s how they maintain influence over you.

This is why it’s so exhausting to be around a narcissist. They are always calculating, always involved, always scheming. You may think they don’t care, but in reality, they care too much about ensuring that you don’t grow beyond their grip.