Living with a Narcissist: Drained by the Enemy

Living with a narcissist is like living with your worst enemy, except this enemy disguises themselves as someone who loves you. Sleeping next to a narcissist is like sleeping with your enemy—you are lying beside someone who secretly loathes you, resents your strengths, and thrives off your suffering. The very person who should be your safe space is actually your greatest source of harm.

That’s why, when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you constantly feel drained. You wake up exhausted, no matter how much you sleep. You find yourself lacking the motivation, energy, and clarity you once had. It’s because you are sharing your space, your energy, and your soul with someone who is siphoning all of it from you. Haters don’t just criticise from a distance—sometimes, they live in your home, eat at your table, and share your bed.

Narcissists are emotional and spiritual parasites. They feed off your energy, your emotions, and your light. Their goal isn’t to uplift you; it’s to keep you weak so that you remain dependent on them. That’s why, no matter what you do, you always feel like you’re running on empty. And the worst part? They do it intentionally. They know that the more exhausted and depleted you are, the easier it is for them to control you.

This is why escaping a narcissistic relationship feels like regaining life itself. You start to breathe again. You start to feel lighter. You realise how much energy was being sucked out of you every single day. The moment you remove yourself from their grasp, you begin to heal, to thrive, and to reclaim the energy that was stolen from you.