Narcissistic Behaviour Speaks for Itself

There is a widespread belief that someone must be officially diagnosed as a narcissist for their behaviour to be validly recognised as toxic. This belief often keeps victims trapped in cycles of abuse, waiting for “proof” that may never come. The truth is, consistent patterns of narcissistic behaviour are enough to recognise someone as deeply toxic.

Expecting a narcissist to seek therapy, be diagnosed, or admit to their issues is a false hope. Most narcissists will never willingly seek professional help because:

1. They do not believe they are the problem – Their entire identity is built on the belief that they are superior and faultless.

2. They avoid accountability at all costs – A diagnosis would mean admitting something is “wrong” with them, which is unbearable to their fragile ego.

3. They manipulate therapists just as they manipulate everyone else – If they do attend therapy, they know exactly how to deceive, play the victim, and shift blame onto others.

A Narcissist Will Never Give You Closure

Waiting for a narcissist to be diagnosed is like waiting for Shaytaan to admit his deception—it will never happen. If anything, narcissists thrive on keeping you confused, uncertain, and doubting yourself. This is part of their game:

• They deny, gaslight, and twist reality so that you second-guess yourself.

• They fake remorse when needed, only to repeat the same behaviours later.

• They destroy your self-esteem, so you feel dependent on them.

• They blame you for everything—even for the abuse they inflict on you.

If you are constantly drained, anxious, and questioning your own sanity, that is all the confirmation you need.

A diagnosis does not change reality. Their behaviour does.

Narcissists Are Master Manipulators – Even in Therapy

Some people hold onto the idea that “if only they went to therapy, they could change.” This is wishful thinking because:

1. Narcissists Do Not Seek Therapy Willingly

• They only attend therapy if forced (e.g., for legal reasons, reputation management, or to manipulate someone).

• They do not see themselves as flawed, so they do not believe they need help.

2. If They Do Go, They Manipulate the Therapist

• Narcissists are incredibly skilled at deception—they know how to present themselves as victims.

• They can turn the therapist against you, making it seem like you are the difficult one.

• They may even use therapy jargon against you to further gaslight and control you.

This is why many survivours of narcissistic abuse feel re-traumatised after therapy—because the narcissist used it as another weapon against them.

Narcissism is a Spiritual Illness – Rooted in the Nafs and Shaytaan

Narcissism is not just a psychological condition; it is deeply spiritual in nature. The Qur’an describes the traits of the hypocrites (Munafiqoon), who lie, manipulate, and deceive—these traits align perfectly with narcissistic behaviour.

1. The Nafs (Lower Self) Rules Them

• The lowest level of the soul, Nafs al-Ammarah (the commanding self), is driven by ego, selfishness, and a lack of empathy.

• A narcissist is ruled by this nafs—they crave power, control, and admiration, even at the cost of others’ pain.

• They refuse self-reflection because their ego cannot tolerate weakness or flaws.

2. Shaytaan Uses Their Weakness to Spread Evil

• Narcissists are among Shaytaan’s greatest tools because they destroy people emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

• They sow discord, cause pain, and drain the light from those around them—just as Shaytaan vowed to do to humanity.

• Their presence in your life can make you question your self-worth, weaken your faith, and make you feel hopeless.

Recognising a Narcissist is Your Proof – Walk Away

You do not need anyone’s validation to confirm that someone is toxic. If a person lies, manipulates, depletes, and destroys you, they are harmful—whether or not they have a label.

If a dog bites you, do you wait for a vet to confirm it is aggressive before protecting yourself?

If a snake poisons you, do you wait for a biologist to classify it before seeking help?

Toxic is toxic. Abuse is abuse. Evil is evil.

There is no excuse for bad character.

Narcissists do not need to be diagnosed for you to know that they are harming you. Your body, heart, and soul already feel it.

Listen to your gut. Trust your experience. Choose yourself.