Narcissists: Shaytaan’s Agents in Human Form—Their Mission to Deplete, Destroy, and Control You
Narcissists do not merely seek attention or admiration—they seek power and control. Their goal is not just to boost their own fragile ego but to tear down others in the process. They thrive on weakening, depleting, and destroying those around them because, deep inside, they are empty, insecure, and spiritually bankrupt. Their mission is to strip you of your confidence, self-worth, and identity, leaving you broken, depleted, and questioning your own reality.
This mission of destruction is not random—it mirrors exactly what Shaytaan (Satan) swore to do when he was cast out of Jannah. Just as Shaytaan vowed to mislead, weaken, and break the spirit of believers, narcissists follow this same destructive path, whether they realise it or not. In many ways, they are Shaytaan’s agents on earth, working to carry out his mission of spreading pain, doubt, and despair.
The Narcissist’s Strategy: Breaking You Down
1. They Identify Your Strengths—Then Use Them Against You
Narcissists are deeply insecure and filled with inner emptiness. They envy what they do not have—whether it’s your confidence, kindness, faith, intelligence, beauty, or success. Instead of admiring these traits, they see them as threats.
Because they lack self-worth, they cannot stand seeing others secure, happy, and spiritually strong. So, they work systematically to take away everything you have that they don’t.
• If you are confident, they will make you doubt yourself.
• If you are kind, they will take advantage of your kindness until you feel used and bitter.
• If you are successful, they will downplay your achievements and make you feel like you are nothing.
• If you have strong imān, they will plant doubts in your heart and try to shake your connection with Allah.
They want to erase everything that makes you unique and special, so that you become a shell of your former self—empty, lost, and dependent on them.
2. They Gaslight You and Make You Feel Insane
Gaslighting is one of the narcissist’s most powerful weapons. They twist reality, making you question your own memory, perception, and sanity.
• They lie blatantly, even when you have proof of the truth.
• They deny things they said or did, making you feel crazy.
• They shift blame onto you, making you feel guilty for things they caused.
• They minimise your pain, making you feel like you’re overreacting.
Gaslighting is designed to weaken your grip on reality so that you lose trust in yourself and become dependent on them for validation and guidance.
3. They Use Emotional and Psychological Abuse to Weaken You
Narcissists are masters of emotional manipulation. They know exactly how to attack your weak points and exploit your fears.
• They give silent treatment to make you feel invisible and unworthy.
• They alternate between love-bombing (showering you with praise) and devaluation (tearing you down), leaving you confused and desperate for their approval.
• They humiliate and embarrass you in public, making you feel small.
• They create drama and chaos to keep you emotionally drained.
Their ultimate goal? To make you emotionally exhausted, mentally unstable, and spiritually depleted.
4. They Attack Your Faith and Connection with Allah
Narcissists are not just destructive to your mind and emotions—they also target your soul. They do Shaytaan’s work for him by trying to separate you from Allah.
• They make you doubt your worth, so you start questioning whether Allah even loves you.
• They create chaos in your life, so you become distracted from your ibadah (worship).
• They manipulate you into sin, so you feel guilty and unworthy of repentance.
• They drain your energy, so you no longer feel motivated to pray or make du’ā.
This is exactly what Shaytaan wants—to make you feel distant from Allah, hopeless, and lost. And the narcissist, whether consciously or unconsciously, becomes an instrument in carrying out this evil mission.
Shaytaan’s Promise to Destroy and Narcissists as His Agents
Shaytaan’s mission from the beginning has been to deceive, manipulate, and destroy believers. He promised Allah that he would lead humanity astray, weaken their imān, and fill their hearts with despair
Allah says in the Qur’an:
“I will certainly mislead them, and I will certainly fill them with false hopes…” (Surah An-Nisa 4:119)
Shaytaan breaks people down by using lies, manipulation, and deception—the same tactics narcissists use.
Just as Shaytaan seeks to make people feel worthless and hopeless, narcissists also work to strip their victims of confidence, self-worth, and joy.
• Shaytaan whispers self-doubt and despair into your heart.
• Narcissists plant seeds of self-hatred and make you doubt your own reality.
• Shaytaan wants you to feel unworthy of Allah’s love.
• Narcissists want you to feel unworthy of love from anyone, including yourself.
• Shaytaan thrives on your pain and suffering.
• Narcissists feed off your misery and brokenness.
These are not coincidences—this is spiritual warfare. Narcissists, through their deep spiritual sickness, become tools of Shaytaan’s destruction.
How to Protect Yourself from Narcissists and Shaytaan’s Influence
Strengthen Your Relationship with Allah
Pray consistently, even if you feel weak.
Make constant Dhikr (remembrance of Allah) to protect your heart.
Seek refuge in Allah from Shaytaan’s whispers (A’oodhu billahi min ash-shaytaan ir-rajeem)
2. Cut Off or Limit Contact with Narcissists
If possible, remove them from your life.
If you must interact with them, set strong boundaries.
Do not give them access to your emotions—they use them against you.
3. Rebuild Your Confidence and Self-Worth
Remind yourself that Allah created you with immense worth.
Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you.
Engage in healing activities like journaling, therapy, and self-reflection.
4. Seek Therapy for Emotional and Spiritual Healing
Therapy helps undo the damage narcissists cause.
It helps you process the emotional trauma they inflicted.
It guides you to reconnect with yourself and your true identity in the sight of Allah.
Recognising Narcissists for What They Truly Are
Narcissists are not just difficult people—they are spiritually ill, deeply broken, and dangerous. Their mission, whether they realise it or not, aligns perfectly with Shaytaan’s mission—to destroy, deplete, and break others down.
But Allah has given us protection, wisdom, and strength. No matter how much a narcissist tries to make you feel worthless, know that in Allah’s eyes, you are precious.
Your self-worth is not defined by their abuse. Your value is in your soul, your imān, and your connection with Allah.
May Allah protect us from the harm of narcissists, guide us to healing, and grant us strength against Shaytaan’s deceptions. Ameen.