When You Ask for the Truth, Be Ready to Accept It

Many of us, when stuck in painful relationships or difficult situations, turn to Allah and ask Him to reveal the truth about the people in our lives. We beg for clarity, for signs, for guidance on whether to stay or leave. But what happens when Allah does answer? What happens when He begins to show us the reality of someone’s character—the very truth we asked for?

Too often, instead of accepting what Allah reveals, we resist it. We make excuses. We justify behaviours. We convince ourselves that “maybe it’s not that bad” or “maybe they’ll change.” This is one of the greatest traps of self-deception—asking for truth but refusing to accept it because it’s not the answer we wanted.

The Signs Are There—But Do You Trust Them?

If you’re in an abusive marriage, a toxic relationship, or any harmful situation, chances are that Allah has already been showing you signs. He may have been sending them for months or even years. These signs can come in many forms:

• Moments of clarity where you finally see their manipulation for what it is.

• Situations that expose their true nature—perhaps an argument, a betrayal, or a pattern of neglect.

• People around you speaking up, warning you, or encouraging you to leave.

• Doors closing, making it harder to keep holding on.

• A deep inner feeling that tells you something is not right.

But instead of trusting these signs, we often rationalise them away. We tell ourselves that if we just wait a little longer, if we just pray a little harder, maybe things will change. But what if the change Allah wants for you isn’t in them—but in YOU?

What’s Holding You Back?

Many women in toxic relationships stay, not because they don’t see the truth, but because leaving feels more terrifying than staying. Why?

• Fear of the unknown—What will happen if I leave? How will I survive?

• Cultural or family pressure—What will people say? What if I’m judged?

• Guilt and misplaced sabr—What if I didn’t try hard enough? What if this is my test?

• Codependency—But I still love them. What if they change?

• Low self-worth—What if I don’t deserve better?

But here’s the reality: holding on to something Allah is trying to remove from your life will only bring you more pain. When He is closing a door, keeping it open will only prolong your suffering.

Sabr is Not Staying in Harm—Sabr is Trusting Allah’s Plan

Many women mistake patience (sabr) for enduring abuse. But patience is not about tolerating oppression—it’s about persevering through the hardship of walking away when you know that is the right thing to do. A test is not meant to be permanent. Like an exam, you go through it, you learn, and then you move on to something greater. You don’t sit in the same test forever.

True sabr is:

• Trusting that if Allah is showing you a way out, it’s for your own good.

• Believing that His wisdom is greater than your emotions.

• Having faith that what’s ahead is better than what you’re leaving behind.

Allah Sees What You Cannot

We often think we know what’s best for us, but our knowledge is limited. Allah sees what you cannot. He knows what’s in people’s hearts, what their future actions will be, and what they are hiding behind their words.

“Perhaps you dislike something and it is good for you, and perhaps you love something and it is bad for you. Allah knows, while you do not.”

— (Qur’ān 2:216)

That person you’re begging Allah to change? Maybe Allah already knows they will never change.

That marriage you’re trying to save? Maybe Allah sees what’s coming, and He is trying to protect you.

We don’t always get the answers we want, but we always get the answers we need.

Letting Go is Hard—But Holding On to the Wrong Thing is Harder

Leaving may feel like the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but holding on to something harmful will drain you even more. The longer you stay in a toxic relationship, the more time you give the narcissist to damage you, break you, and make you doubt your own worth.

The truth is:

• Healing is hard, but suffering is harder.

• Moving on is painful, but staying stuck is worse.

• Trusting Allah feels scary at first, but regret is far heavier.

When you ask Allah for guidance, trust Him when He gives it to you. Don’t ignore the red flags, don’t dismiss the signs, and don’t let fear keep you in a place that Allah is trying to free you from.

Allah’s answers are always for your good. It’s time to stop resisting and start trusting.